That quitting thingy...
Recently I quit my job and I think quitting is one of those things that’s different for everyone. People quit quite often and it seems that after a few times, one gets used to it, but it’s a complex issue… (there’s even a website for giving advice)
For me, it was difficult, almost traumatic (I definitely wouldn’t want to do it again). It was probably mostly resistance to change… but I didn’t think I was going to think about it so much (even writing this post has been difficult).
Well, what happens is that one day, like any other day, one seeks out this person (the boss, a good guy in my case), who expects one to grow in the company, has schedules, plans, and projects in which one is involved, who believes one will be there when he needs them… has all kinds of plans for the future “together” and one goes to him and says “I need to talk to you” (usually that phrase is not good at all) and then one has to say “all those plans you have… they’re not going to happen, I have a better opportunity or I just have to go or it’s personal matters” (“It’s not you, it’s me”).
In case you haven’t noticed yet, for me quitting is comparable to breaking up with someone… I felt like I had been saying “It’s over, I found someone else, we’re done” (yuck!), even worse, I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted to leave, so it was like one of those occasions when one doesn’t know what to do, to stay or go, one has a little fear… (yuck++)
And then comes the part where they usually make a new offer (a raise, a promotion, or whatever) that’s like “what did I do wrong? can I change it? is there anything I can do? give me a second chance…”
And besides, it sucks to quit because one can’t avoid “the person” with whom one is “breaking up” because after quitting one has to stay for a month, pretending nothing has happened, hearing how plans are being redone and this time one isn’t in them :(, one almost sees how “life” will be without one :(
But nothing compares to the moment of goodbye, it’s not just one person whom one says goodbye to, it’s all the coworkers, who usually became friends and have been in one’s life for a while… that’s the saddest part :’(
Well… I know it sounds dramatic… but that’s how my imagination and I went through that thing of quitting…
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